My Child is Afraid of the Dentist... What Do I Do?
Rest assured, it’s completely normal for your child to be nervous or scared about going to the dentist for the first time, or even the first few times! Just like any other new experience, your child probably has a lot of questions about what they’re about to go through! Even some adults are anxious about visiting the dentist’s office… Here are some ideas to help ease your child’s mind about going to the dentist.
Start Visiting the Dentist Early with Your Child!
The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends that your children go for their first checkup at the dentist when their first tooth comes in, or no later than their first birthday. Your child’s first dental visit will be quick and pretty easy! You’ll get some feedback on habits like thumb sucking and pacifiers, and your child’s dentist will make sure his or her new teeth are healthy and growing in the right way! Your child’s first visit will help him or her to get used to visiting the dentist’s office and become comfortable with the experience. Over time, the team will ease your child into a regular visit routine, so they’ll know what to expect. The earlier you start the process of bringing your child to the dentist’s office, the better.
Read Children’s Books About Going to the Dentist
Here is a great list of books to read before your child’s first dental visit! You know what your child will respond to, so pick from this list to help you share some positive stories about the dentist.
- Mercery Myer – Just Going to the Dentist
- Anne Civardi – Going to the Dentist
- Marc Brown – Arthur’s Tooth
- PK Hallinan – My Dentist, My Friend
- Robert Munsch – Andrew’s Loose Tooth
- Paulette Bougeois – Franklin and the Tooth Fairy
- Mary W. Olson – Nice Try, Tooth Fairy
- Sleby B. Beeler – Throw Your Teeth on the Roof: Traditions from Around the World
- Hope Martin – What Does the Tooth Fairy Do with All Those Teeth?
Play A Game of Pretend “Going to the Dentist”
Your child loves to play pretend. Get out their toothbrush and pretend to be the dentist with your child. You can simply act out the visit in a fun way, by having them sit in a special chair, counting their teeth, and brushing and flossing. And, let them play dentist too! A stuffed animal (or you) can play their patient. Your quick game of pretend can help to make their dentist visit seem fun and inviting.
Talk to Your Kids About Going to the Dentist
Your kids learn everything from you! So talk to them about why it’s so important to take of their health, including their teeth! Learning about their smile, how their teeth and gums work, and how the tooth doctor can help keep them healthy can be fun. Other great resources can help you support these conversations, like
Tell Your Kids About Dentist Visits in Advance, but Not Too Far in Advance!
A few days before going to the dentist for the first time or any time in the future, tell your child about it. They won’t need much detail, but it may be helpful to tell your child about the visit and help them understand what to expect. Use age-appropriate words they can understand, and keep things positive and to the point! We don’t recommend telling your child about a dental visit too far in advance, because that can cause anxiety in some children.
No Surprise Visits or Procedures
If your child needs to have a procedure like a filling, don’t surprise them because that can create anxiety and mistrust (in both you and your child’s dentist). It can be helpful to ask your dentist for tips on how to explain the procedure, or you can ask to have the dentist speak with your child if that feels more comfortable. After all, your child’s dentist is trained to talk about dentistry in a kid-friendly, easy-to-understand way!
Work on Your Fear of the Dentist if You Have One
Research shows that parents can certainly pass on their dental fears to their kids. If you’re apprehensive about visiting your dentist, try not to let it show when you’re talking to your kids at home. It can be helpful to both you and your children to talk about the dentist in an upbeat way. Try to be relaxed and happy when you go into the dentist’s office with your child.